Face Reading, Thin slices, Proxemics, and Eyebrows
Face Reading (FR), or Physiognomy
We have been talking about this concept for a while already. But something most people do not realize is that FR allows you to see people in an objective and not subjective way.
What you see is what you get and what you get is what you see.
When we meet somebody for the first time, there is not too much we can do to separate our personal perception from the real person or people in front of us.
Nalini Ambady and Robert Rosenthal (1992) were the first experts in the field to prove that we have usually less than five minutes to make a first impression. This is called “thin slices.” In 2007 Dana R. Carney expanded the study to ten seconds and two to three seconds of exposure on first impressions, the results were the same, but she came to the conclusion that women tended to make more accurate judgments using thin slicing than men—sorry guys.
Good news, most of the time, first impressions don’t have much to do with us, but rather with the personal dictionary/emotional memories of the person who is meeting us.
Yes, imagine this, you are wearing the same perfume their mother-in-law uses, you have the same voice of an ex-partner, or you just have a similar face that reminds them of a bully from the old school days.
Yes, you can do a lot to try to fix that first impression, but studies show people don’t change first impressions. Our brain can get stuck in the bad taste that our first impression did.
So, if you are in a position where you need to be objective and leave aside your personal dictionary, what can you do?
When you combine Face Reading, Body Language, Micro-Expressions and Statement Analysis—I know,
I know, I swear on these four channels and it’s for a reason, it works. I have been working on a series of articles explaining the different features of a face; how we intake, process, and express information.
This article focuses on the Proxemics and personal space when we meet somebody to try to respect and adapt to the thin slices situation and try to avoid a bad experience, by respecting others needs in order to not become a bad memory.
Proxemics is the study of the amount of space that people feel is necessary to set between themselves and others.
Proximity is communicated, for instance, through the use of space, distance, touching, and body position.
People from different cultural backgrounds can value personal space differently, for example, in the United States, there are four types of “distance” which people use to communicate on a face-to-face basis.
· Intimate distance (0-2 ft.)
· Personal distance (2-4ft.)
· Social distance (4-12 ft.)
· Public distance (>12 ft.)
Eyebrow-proxemics and how to approach
We have two types of measurements for eyebrow distance (space between eyelids and space between eyebrows). We have high eyebrows and low eyebrows. Eyebrow distance determines how you need to approach someone.
Levels or intensity
They are three types of distance to measure PROXEMICs- Middle high- low-really high.
There is no space between the eyebrows and the eyes. The low eyebrows reveal a very quick mind.
They want to get the job done and get it done now. They may tend to interrupt others while someone is finishing their thought, and they have may several new thoughts that if they don’t say them now, might be lost. So be patient, they are present, they are paying attention, but their brain is running for the finish line.
What to do
- Don’t make a person with low eyebrows wait—it will drive them crazy.
- They are easy to approach
- Be less formal
- Do not give them any reason to feel as if you are questioning or judging them
- They can feel like they become over familiar too fast, too soon
- Ask questions
ADVICE: Be aware of eyeglasses and sunglasses, this can confuse you on the
distance between the eyebrows and the eyelids— check my LinkedIn profile
and you will see I AM WEARING SUNGLASSES…….
THE TWO TYPES TOGETHER
You can find two type of eyebrows in one person. Yes, you can be different in your internal and external life.
Some expert has expressed that this can lead to changes in personalities. The side the eyebrows/ eyelids distance is located is where you need to set the PROXEMIC. Meaning internal-personal/ external/work.
A person can be open and friendly and reserved and distance at the same time. Where? Look the face….
In simple English:
Low eyebrow left side: Friendly and easy to approach in the external world
Low eyebrows right side: Friendly and easy to approach in the personal/internal life.
Hight eyebrow in the left side: Reserved and distance in the external world
Hight eyebrow in the right side: Reserved and distance in the personal/internal world.
Left side and Right side need to be read it as you look in the person. As I explained in the article=
We express each side of the brain on the opposite side of the face and body, but when we are in front of a
person you need to not switch as will be easy not get confused!!!
…….” Before you start learning the features of the face, you need to first understand that we are ruled by our left and our right brain. Your right brain is expressed on the left side of your face. The left brain is expressed on the right side of your face. So, when you are facing a person to read, understand first what part of the brain/face you are reading. If you want to sell to/negotiate with somebody, you will see a mix of both, but the primary factor is the left brain, as it dominates our external world—finances, and wok. The right brain centers around our personal life, love, and family……………..”
See you next week. Send me an email with questions, ideas for articles and what problems you are having communicating with others, I LOVE to hear your input. XoXo Susan- [email protected]
This is part of a weekly series of articles about Physiognomy, Statement Analysis, Micro Expressions, Body language, Behavior, and is an extract of the training we offer for institutions and the private sector. To inquire please contact Leann at [email protected] or C: 312.235.9832