We have been talking about this concept for a while already. But something most people do not realize is that FR allows you to see people in an objective and not subjective way. What you see is what you get and what you get is what you see.
When we meet somebody for the first time, there is not too much we can do to separate our personal perception from the real person or people in front of us. Nalini Ambady and Robert Rosenthal (1992) were the first experts in the field to prove that we have usually less than five minutes to make a first impression. This is called “thin slices.”
In 2007 Dana R. Carney expanded the study to ten seconds and two to three seconds of exposure on first impressions, the results were the same, but she came to the conclusion that women tended to make more accurate judgments using thin slicing than men—sorry guys.
Good news, most of the time, first impressions don’t have much to do with us, but rather with the personal dictionary/emotional memories of the person who is meeting us.
Yes, imagine this, you are wearing the same perfume their mother-in-law uses, you have the same voice of an ex-partner, or you just have a similar face that reminds them of a bully from the old school days.
Yes, you can do a lot to try to fix that first impression, but studies show people don’t change first impressions. Our brain can get stuck on the bad taste that our first impression did.
So, if you are in a position where you need to be objective and leave aside your personal dictionary, what can you do?
When you combine Face Reading, Body Language, Micro-Expressions and Statement Analysis—I know, I know, I swear on these four channels and it’s for a reason, it works. I have been working on a series of articles explaining the different features of a face; how we intake, process, and express information.
This article focuses on the Proxemics and personal space when we meet somebody to try to respect and adapt to the thin slices situation and try to avoid a bad experience, by respecting others’ needs in order to not become a bad memory.
Proxemics is the study of the amount of space that people feel is necessary to set between themselves and others. Proximity is communicated, for instance, through the use of space, distance, touching, and body position. People from different cultural backgrounds can value personal space differently, for example, in the United States, there are four types of “distance” which people use to communicate on a face-to-face basis.
- Intimate distance (0-2 ft.)
- Personal distance (2-4ft.)
- Social distance (4-12 ft.)
- Public distance (>12 ft.)
Eyebrow-proxemics and how to approach:
We have two types of measurements for eyebrow distance (space between eyelids and space between eyebrows). We have high eyebrows and low eyebrows. Eyebrow distance determines how you need to approach someone.
Levels of intensity:
They are three types of Hight and Low eyebrows- Middle high- low-really high.
The eyebrows are considered high because of the amount of space between the eyes and the eyebrows. These people take a right-brain approach to finding solutions that feel right, so it takes a bit more time. They will often adopt a wait and see approach and don’t like to be rushed into a decision. A normal response you will have for this type could be: “Let me get back to you on that”. Because before they make a final decision, they need to consider how they feel about it.
What to do:
- Do not rush this person.
- Make sure to keep physical distance.
- Be sure to honor their need for formality in language, titles, dress code, etc.
- Don’t mistake the “coolness” as disinterest.
- Give them time to approach you on their own time.
Next week how to communicate with people with low eyebrows and examples
See you next week. Send me an email with questions, ideas for articles and what problems you are having communicating with others, I LOVE to hear your input. XoXo Susan- email@example.com
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